It’s my best friend’s birthday.
I’m feeling all the feelings, grateful for his life and sad that we can’t be together and joyful that he chooses to fight for our relationship across hundreds of miles every single day.
He turns 21 and these are just 21 reasons why I have fallen in love with him.
[Here on the blog, you’ve seen glimpses of his presence, but haven’t been fully introduced. That is changing today! Here’s a bit more about the guy that’s the reason I’ve been so quiet in the writing department over the past few months – pondering it all in my heart, building up words for myself and words to slowly release to the rest of the world.]
he loves Jesus
It’s what matters most and I couldn’t be more grateful.
he is goofy and serious
He’s hilarious AND so wise. This means I get the gift of laughter, discernment, joy, and perspective every day.
i can be myself with him
See reason number two. 🙂 He brings out the kid in me.
he is good at Dad jokes
The kid is years ahead of his time in the Dad joke department. Thanks for making me laugh. And making mostly everyone else cringe.
he makes himself at home in the most random places
When we reunited last summer, I introduced him to friends and twenty minutes later he was digging through their fridge looking for something to eat. For some reason, it made me smile so wide. It’s all about the right amount of friendliness and confidence I think.
he doesn’t care what people think in the best way
From wearing purple hair to his first Kansas State football game to going crazy with me on the dance floor, I don’t have much of a chance to hide out from FUN on the sidelines or in the shadows anymore. His loud and my quiet create a really beautiful balance. He’s the Chip to my Joanna.
he confesses sin + repents in the light
He’s not perfect. But when he sees sin in his heart and life, he takes it to God and makes it right with the people around him.
he loves his momma real well
It’s the sweetest thing to witness.
he cultivates community
He is gifted at connecting people. This makes him an incredible friend and one day will make him a terrific pastor.
he is good at conflict
We have had our fair share of conflict and he is able to speak true, hard words with gentleness. He says, “Talk to me. What’s up?” about ten times a week. When we are together, he will cup my face and says “Look at me” when I’m avoiding eye contact. He prays before and after rough conversations that could very well lead to – or we know will – lead to an argument.
he errors on the side of thoughtfulness
Zach never stops thinking, in every situation, about everyone in the situation… and usually thinks about himself last.
he looks at me like this
He looked at her the way all women want to be looked at by a man. – F. Scott Fitzgerald
he puts his all into everything he does
In a world that is constantly distracted, he is fully in the conversations he’s involved in. It’s not a matter of perfect focus, but he is so good at doing the next best thing and putting all his strength into it whether it’s an all-nighter for school, picking up extra hours at work, or playing a game in the backyard with his family.
he has a servant heart
Before I even see a need or a desire of a friend or family member, Zach is fixing it or helping or going above and beyond to meet the need.
he’s a baby + kid magnet
All the kiddos in my life adore him. All the kiddos we pass on the street gravitate towards him. My youngest nephew was calling him Uncle Kurt the day they met and it was too cute to ever correct him. He sees kids like I think Jesus intends them to be seen in the kingdom of God — with priceless value and intentional attention and necessary correction.
he was my faithful friend first
Ever since we became friends in 2013, at the end of a bad day I always knew Zach was a safe place to land.
he makes life a dance party
We are always singing and dancing.
he prays over me and anyone who will join him
Almost ten months into our romantic relationship, I cannot count the times he has prayed over me and with me. He leads well. In fact, I knew I was 100% ready to take a step of faith and say yes to move further in our relationship in a prayer he said over us last summer. In addition to ministering to me in this way, I have seen him minister so many times to friends and even strangers going to God in prayer.
he takes care of me when i’m sick
The man has held me in the ugliness of my worst panic attacks, rubbed my feet when I had a fever, prayed over me when the lies in my head were strong, encouraged me countless times to go to a coffee shop and spend time with Jesus when I’m having a rough day, and got everything I needed including a Gilmore Girls marathon when I had the flu.
he writes me songs and letters
I was a hopeless romantic in middle school, but I don’t think I ever thought I’d have someone who wrote me songs. Counting this as one of the many ways God goes above and beyond to grace me with Zach.
he is stubborn in his love for me
When I am stubborn in moodiness and negativity and plain nastiness, he is stubborn to call me out with kind, true words. Stubborn to not hang up the phone until he knows I’m okay. Stubborn to not go to bed angry, if we can help it. Stubborn to bring my from tears to laughter. Stubborn to help me receive love and say thank you. Stubborn to get me to work through my fears and open up.
ZACH KURT!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
You’re a good man, and these are just a few of the reasons why. There are so many more. Don’t celebrate too hard without me – kick those finals in the butt, drink a round of green tea shots, and live it up with those handsome Spiicy Short Boyz. Can’t wait to party with you in just a few sleeps.